I’ve been on both sides of the fence myself. I think sometimes you think what’s best for yourself and not always what’s best for someone else.

Give little (let’s hope not) Nicholas a chance at pleasuring you once
more. Don’t put all the responsibility on him though, as I think you
have a duty to tell him what you like and how you want him to do things.
Maybe his last sexual partner was really into him fumbling around in
her nether region, and he assumes you like it as well? Who knows?
Making your demands at this stage of the game might be a little
awkward. This is why, without hesitation, I will say sex is better
with a long term partner than it is with a new partner. Once you know
each other well, you’ll both feel better about shouting out commands in the
bedroom, and with any luck, that will lead to both of you being
satisfied.

With all that being said, douchebag Nick might just be a dud in the
sack. I have tried dating one of these types myself. She was nice,
fun, and pretty……but, she was like a fish out of water in the
bedroom. I kept telling myself that I would be a total jerk for
breaking up with this pretty, smart, and successful girl, only because
she was as timid as a lamb under the sheets. After months of sexual
frustration, I realized something I had known from the start – a
healthy sexual relationship is just as important as any other aspect
of a relationship. Despite my best efforts at bedroom communication,
this was just not going to happen. I knew things would never get better, and
I was wasting my time. It was bye bye to the great 20-something-year-old girl who made Steve Carell’s version of a 40-year-old virgin look like a pro in the sack.

My best advice would be to give yourself a chance to get to know this
stud before classifying him a dud. Don’t give it too much time
though. If, after your best attempts to both get to know and instruct
him, you find yourself fantasizing more about masturbating than you do
about getting manhandled by this fine piece of meat, kick him to the
curb. Don’t waste your time – by facing the cold hard truth (and not acting
like a pussy like I did), you’ll both be better off in the end.

John I gotta say that Chris gets it right again in his comment to you. If we are interested, we won’t mind you approaching. But really the bottom line is, if you want to approach me, or any girl, do it. So what if we aren’t interested. All you’ve invested is a few side long looks and a few words with a stranger who is completely unimportant in your life.

Perspective.

I hear ya man. Approaching a woman today has to be the hardest thing to do. If you listen to your female friends they all have bad stories about being approached in X location, in in Y manner. When you hear enough stories like that you eventually are at a loss of when is safe and where is ok to approach a woman.

I think the real answer is they will only accept you approaching them if they like you back. Then it won’t matter.

I hope this guy at least texted or called to advise he would be late. I know parking is sometimes hard to find downtown, but an hour? Really?

I do have something better for you to do – how about another blog post? I think your time would be better spent that way.

Either way the guy sounds like a bit of a nob. I’d say onto the next one.